Saturday, June 03, 2017

What I Learned | Spring 2017

Sharing lessons learned in spring 2017 with Emily Freeman. What I Learned | Spring 2017 - A Simpler Grace



The lovely Emily Freeman (author and blogger) hosts a fun writing exercise and link up so we can all share the things we've learned in that season. I joined in last season and loved the experience and I'm excited to participate again this week.

Here's what I learned this spring.

Sometimes good things must come to an end.
It's hard to see good things leave our lives, especially when they feel right or that they are intended for us. I've learned on more than one occasion that often they aren't the best thing for us and need to out of the way to make room for what really is intended for us. Just like everything in life, there are seasons and sometimes even the good things go out of season.

Vulnerability finds deeper connection that a closed heart. 
I started the new year out with a promise to myself that I would only write here on the blog if my message came from my heart. It hasn't always been easy to crack myself open and share the things that are within me, but I've stuck to this promise I made. While being vulnerable is rarely comfortable, it does get easier with time and when you show your true self in the words you share, others grab onto that truth and share their own stories. That connection is so worth allowing yourself to be vulnerable. (Some examples of this promise playing out here, here and here.)

Patience is difficult for me.
I have always struggled with patience. I'm a type A perfectionist who enjoys things running on her timeline and when they don't, hello panic attack. I've been asking God to help me become a more patient person and... ask and you shall receive. Lately, it seems like nothing is happening when I think it will (or should) and I have no control over it, so I'm learning to work through feelings I don't like to deal with. I just read a book by Elizabeth Laing Thompson called When God Says Wait and this spoke so much truth into my life. Patience is still not an easy concept for me, but I'm learning to lean into the process of waiting and grow along the way.

True friends will always be there no matter how much time passes between texts or phone calls.
I have been blessed with some of the best friends a girl could ask for, many of whom are long distance. I sometimes feel like a terrible friend because I don't keep up with them as much as I would like but I've come to learn they often feel the same way. When it boils down to it, true friends will always be there when it's important, no matter how much time passes between check-ins.

I feel so much better when I'm not eating sugar and carbs.
I know... you're thinking, "where have you been?" but I'm now seeing evidence to this argument even though I've known this to be true for years. I can do without the refined sugar. My struggle is pasta and rice and bread. Being a gluten-free, super-tasting pescatarian, I'm limited on what I can eat already. My diet comprises of fish, fruit and vegetables and a big portion of my meals used to contain carbs. They were healthy carbs like brown rice, but still carbs, and I felt like crap for weeks after consuming them. Now that I've cut these things out of my diet, I'm feeling (and looking) better.

That old saying "If you love it, let it go" rings true.
It goes like this: If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it's yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never meant to be. Last summer, I let go of my something, thinking it was one of those forever goodbyes, but just a few weeks ago, it came back. It leaves no doubt in my mind that this is God's nudge in a decision I've been praying over for months and my heart is happy.

My divorce gave me strength rather than depression.
In February, after two years of separation and many more of unhappiness, the end of my marriage was finalized. I've been expecting it for over a year but was afraid it would throw me into a deep depression when it finally came. Fifteen years of my life dedicated to someone who didn't always treat me right and it came to an end in a thick envelope from a court clerk, the week of Valentine's Day nonetheless. Instead of getting depressed, though, I celebrated. I'd grown so used to leaning on someone all those years that I feared I was incapable of standing on my own two legs. Getting through this divorce process on my own made me realize how strong I am and I've never once given myself credit for that.

Every step I've taken has led me to where I am today.
I've made some bad choices in my life. I've taken the wrong path one-too-many times. I've followed impulse rather than intuition more than I'd care to admit. When I think about all the mistakes I've made in life, I start to cringe. Then I realize that every single step I've taken has led me to where I am at this very moment. Without those mistakes and wrong turns, I'd be a different person in a different situation and wouldn't have the blessings and the wonderful people and the amazing life experiences I have today. For this, I am grateful.

I'd love to know what you learned this spring! Feel free to share a comment below or if you've written a post, jump over to Emily's blog and link up!

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26 comments:

  1. Important insights. The biggest, obviously, is learning independence. It's a muscle that strengthens with use. Good luck!

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  2. Such inspirational thoughts here. First, it's great to read how your divorce gave your strength! Also, avoiding carbs makes me feel so much better, too...it's just way easier said than done, personally!!

    - Kaitlin
    kedgotwed.com

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  3. You're right! It takes practice. Hope you have a great weekend!

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  4. So true! Thanks for coming by to read, Kaitlin! :)

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  5. Wow! Sounds like you have learned quite a bit in one season. It sounds like many things have been tough for you, but I am glad that you are looking to God instead of the world.

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  6. This is an amazing post. I love knowing your story too, to enhance understanding what you're saying. ❤ you're incredible - what beautiful lessons to have learned!!!!

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  7. I'm the same when it comes to patience, or no patience I should say! I lose patience very easily and have to try hard everyday not to, my 4 year old likes to help me practice this Ha Ha!
    Lianne | Makes, Bakes and Decor

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  8. Oh, sugar. I have a terrible sweet tooth, but I feel so much better when I cut back on the sweets.

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  9. Thanks for coming by to read, Kristin! :)

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  10. Haha! Patience is something that is only learned with practice and I think I will always struggle with it.

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  11. Same! I've been enjoying summer fruit to satisfy my sugar cravings.

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  12. So true about real friends...you can go for a long time without talking and when you do talk, it's like the time never passed

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  13. love this! Spring is a great time for these lessons and you're so inspiring by sharing them with us. Also, yah sugar and carbs are the worst!!

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  14. I love this post Lecy! It was so nice getting to know you on a more personal level!

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  15. Yes! Grateful for those people in my life!

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  16. Thanks, Rachel! Hope you have a great week!

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  17. This post was very inspiring to me, especially the part about rising up and learning to walk on your own two feet, no leaning. Stay strong <3

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  18. Thanks so much, Tina. I'm so happy you enjoyed it. :)

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  19. Joscelyn | WifemamafoodieJune 5, 2017 at 3:43 AM

    Such great advice and very encouraging. Great friends are hard to come by, but the best of friends will be there no matter how much time has passed. I cherish those few true friendships I have!

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  20. Great lessons... I have definitely learned many of those myself.

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  21. Thank you so much, Joscelyn! Hope you have a great week!

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  22. This is lovely!! And it's so reassuring to hear that someone else is learning the value in letting things go... I completely hear you on that one. Thanks for sharing the real stuff! <3

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  23. Thank you so much for stopping by to read, Allie! <3

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