Tuesday, November 13, 2018

If You and I Had Coffee | vol 29

Join me for a conversation over coffee? #coffeedates



"When you least expect it, nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spot." - André Aciman

If you and I had coffee...

We'd meet up at one of those hole-in-the-wall diners that's open twenty-four hours a day. The kind of place that is always featured in movies and subtlely implies that it's where all the deep conversations happen. It would be late at night and I'd order a slice of cherry pie so I could eat all the crust - my favorite part - and leave the mushy over-cooked fruit filling on the plate. We'd sit for a minute and watch as the rain streamed down the glass-paneled window.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I've been all up in my feels lately. Last week, someone whom I thought cared for me did something really shady and it hurt more than I expected. I knew it was coming. It was one of those slow-motion train wrecks that you watch from a distance and are unable to stop because of the sheer force of velocity and momentum. I needed a good cry and chocolate cake and a week without internet or people in order to come to terms with what was happening.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that during my time away, I questioned everything. I debated the validity of my thoughts and ideas. I thought about the life choices that brought me to this point. I pondered the idea of shutting down this space permanently and jumping off a bridge and ending it all. The human mind is a dark and scary place and my depression is that thick sometimes. Obviously, I didn't go to the bridge. I'm still here and still hurting, but I know that one day, I'll look back on these difficult moments and realize how minuscule they were and how they were all worth it in the end.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that in the last few days, I've come closer to embracing who I am than I ever have in my life. I've been denying myself of my true identity, trying to hide the parts of me that are too painful to bear in full light, the parts I've been ashamed of, the parts that others might find to be too awkward or quirky or abrasive. The truth is, I have to stop apologizing for who I am. I have to stop making excuses for why I'm different. I'm not sorry for wearing my heart on my sleeve. I'm not sorry for being prone to depression. I'm not sorry for having a mind that spins on an axis that is a little off-kilter from everyone else's.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I am a girl in transition. This little space of mine will be transitioning with me. You'll see a lot less of the status quo, the empty filler posts, the routine chatter. You'll probably not see as much content as before, but what you will see is going to be deeper and straight out of this broken and glued-together heart. Stay tuned. I have so much to say.


Now, it's your turn! If you wrote a coffee date post, I'd love for you to link up below so we can all meet together! Just click the "add your link" box and follow the instructions to submit.

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What would you like to chat about over coffee?

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12 comments:

  1. I noticed you were offline last week and was hoping you were okay. So glad to see you are back (and I'll definitely do a coffee catch up soon).
    I'm sorry that last week was such a rough one for you - it is always a shock when someone you care about hurts you. I'm sorry that you had some scary thoughts and just hope that you had someone who could talk it through with you.
    I'm glad that you are getting closer to embracing who you are. You don't need to apologise or make excuses - a lot of people wear their hearts on their sleeve. I do as well so I know it is a recipe for getting your feelings trampled on at times. But you are you - you don't need to edit yourself. And this is your space so I'm excited to see where this transformation is taking you and reading all about it.

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  2. Oh friend, I'm sorry that you are hurting, but I am so glad you are sharing about it and it's ok to be in transition and figuring out what you want this space to be. I'm very glad you didn't go to the bridge. You matter. And I'm glad you are here. HUG.

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  3. Lecy, I'm really sorry to hear you've been hurt like this. Praying that you can know God's comfort and love in this time. Love the idea of deep and heartfelt posts to come xx

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  4. I'm so sorry about the person you thought cared about you. I've had moments like that, and it's not easy. Like Beth said, I'm so glad you're here and you definitely matter. I'm glad you are still blogging and sharing with us, and I hope it brings some healing. And good for you for realizing that it's okay to be exactly who you are! No need to apologize for that!

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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  5. Tobia | craftaliciousmeNovember 17, 2018 at 6:20 AM

    So sorry that a "friend" disappointed you like that. It hurts a lot. Hope you will do better soon. And I look forward to the deeper posts you are writing. Have a god weekend, Tobia

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  6. I am so thankful you came back to writing. I always find so much peace in what you write. You are beyond honest with your struggles, with life, health, love, relationships. Its always thought through, well written, and links to things I find happy, informative (hello, sea sponge I am talking to you), and awesome.
    Thank you for hosting Coffee for us and keep on.

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  7. Thank you, Anthea. After realizing how out of control my depression was, I knew I needed to step back from everything and reconfigure what is really important. Thank you so much for the encouragement. It means a lot. <3

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  8. Thank you so much, Lauren. It always hurts more than I'd like to admit when someone betrays me, but I'm trying to move on to better, more positive things. <3

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  9. Thank you, Bella. I'm definitely feeling those prayers. <3

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  10. It does hurt to be let down by someone who says they care for you. I am also looking forward to writing some deeper posts. :)

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  11. Brittany, thank you so much. I'm in tears reading your comment. Sometimes, blogging is hard because you don't know if anyone is reading or even cares about what you have to say, so this means more to me than you know. I am grateful to have connected with you through blogging and count you as a true friend. <3

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