Tuesday, January 01, 2019

One Little Word | 2019

Today I'm sharing the word I've chosen to be my beacon for the coming year. #onelittleword



"Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding." - Albert Einstein

What if I told you I did this one little word thing all wrong in 2018? I chose the word "hustle" and for the first half of the year, I felt like I was running in circles, trying to keep all these plates up in the air. I ignored my natural rhythm, denied myself balance and forced productivity like I was on a factory line.

Then, I cracked. I emotionally broke down. Something that should not have caused me such turmoil, wrecked me and I lost myself because of it. I was overwhelmed, stressed out, and weary from pushing myself too hard in too many directions. "Hustle" was a big, fat failure. But I'm not sorry. I learned a lot about what I can handle, what I can't, and what I truly need to be happy.

Originally, I wasn't going to choose a word for this new year. I had planned to skip it and go about my business as usual. But there was one particular word that kept coming up in my conversations, and in things I was reading, and even in my journal entries, and I could not ignore it any longer.

You see, I was born to carry burdens. I have always been this way. For as long as I can remember, I've had this belief ingrained in my mind that if I am not suffering, I am not learning and growing. Unless I have a cross to bear, my life is somehow incomplete. If not my own, I will happily take the burdens of others, place them on my shoulders and suffer along with them. It's empathy to an extreme level.

I have also struggled with letting go of the things that plague my mental and emotional health. Toxic relationships, bad habits, even ideas I think I need to save for a rainy day. I keep them neatly packed away in my mind, sometimes pulling one out and playing it over and over like a vinyl record before filing it away again for safe-keeping.

For years, these two problems have been slowly infecting my life. I used to think I could manage them, but it turns out they are much bigger than I anticipated and acknowledging them has been the driving force in the process of choosing my one little word for 2019.

One Little Word | 2019 - A Simpler Grace


In 2019, my word will be PEACE, and it has never been so needed.

peace [pees] (noun)
  1. cessation of or freedom from any strife or dissension
  2. freedom of the mind from annoyance, distraction, anxiety, an obsession
  3. a state of tranquility or serenity
  4. silence, stillness
So, in 2019, I'll be working on letting go and finding peace. I have to learn to let others carry their own burdens. I can be empathetic and still keep my boundaries so that I am able to stay healthy. I have to unpack all those little boxes filled with past hurts and regrets, toxic relationships and bad habits. Those records have chips and scratches in them and they no longer sound good when they are played aloud. It's time to let go so I can finally be at peace.

Here's to a peaceful new year.

Have you chosen a word for 2019? If you have, I'd love to hear about it in the comments below.

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24 comments:

  1. I think this is fanstastic! I've been the same way thinking that if something isn't wrong in my life then it would only worry me continulously until the next problem came along. I hope you embrace that peace wholeheartedly because you deserve it!

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  2. Girl, I am with you!! Can I steal your word? For me, I think my word is going to be GRATITUDE :)

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  3. That's a great word!!
    Last year was the first time I'd chosen a word and it was an epic fail - "consistent". I recall making comments in more than one post about how it should have been "scatterbrain" or something like that. When I went to bed last night and I barely had the thought of "I wonder what I can come up with for this year" and it popped in my head - FOCUS! Sounds perfect for me!

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  4. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who thinks that way, but I also hope that your life can be more peaceful too. Thanks for coming by to read, Teya!

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  5. Of course you can! I think gratitude is a perfect word for the year. Here's to an awesome 2019!

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  6. I sometimes think life has a way of teaching us lessons using the word we choose. I love focus for the year! Hope you have an awesome 2019!

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  7. I did choose a word - I'm sharing it tomorrow, and more about my goals for the year later in the month, I think. I love your word though. I think Peace is something a lot of us could really strive for. I know I'm definitely too empathetic and it can affect my mental health.

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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  8. Peace is so important. This past year was so incredibly stressful and I had to take a moment to realize that I am responsible for my own peace. So, I'm making the decision to remove things that disrupt it too!

    Denise | http://theelleaesthetic.com/

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  9. I'm sorry your 2018 word didn't work out for you, but I'm so glad you chose another one because this year's word sounds like it's going to be very beneficial for you! Finding peace in our everyday lives isn't easy, but it's definitely worth it. You deserve to feel calm and content with everything around you, and I hope that's how this year works out for you ☺️

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  10. Can't wait to read about your word for the year!

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  11. Yes! We are responsible for our own peace. Love that!

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  12. I'm sorry it didn't work out but glad I was able to learn from it. :)

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  13. I love that through the hustle and break you went through, you are working this year to find peace.
    I have never been a word a year person. I don't get it. I am also struggling to come up with resolutions so maybe I am simply in a funk. Maybe I don't need any more. See I am so anti-holiday (commercialized) that I celebrate new years on my birthday and check in then. This past one was great. I traveled and sought as much water as possible because water grounds me. So in lakes and creeks I went. It was so refreshing. I also was able to really soul search and get a few things out that I have been hanging on to.
    I hope you find the Peace you deserve this year!!

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  14. I know a lot of people who don't choose a word or don't find value in it. That's ok. I think you have to do what feels right to you. I love that you sought what grounds you. I like to do that too. For me, just being in nature soothes me. I hope you have a wonderful new year, friend! <3

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  15. I think if I understood the meaning of the word a year thing I could get behind it. To me, it seemed like one day everyone had a word for the year. I don't use social media so maybe I missed the "tutorial" on that. I am always a little bit behind unless someone tells me about a new trend.
    And it was a really strange year. I usually ground myself in water weekly but we had some massive flooding so most of our rivers were super contaminated plus when they are that high/fast people lose their lives so I tend to stay away.
    I'm not sure I know which part of the country you are in but I hope the nature is beautiful. I put almost 5000 miles on my car over a week traveling my state.

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  16. So, there are two origins for the one-word idea. One is One Word 365 (https://oneword365.com/) and the other is Ali Edwards, a big scrapbooker and the creative behind December Daily (https://aliedwards.com/projects/one-little-word) It's basically choosing a word and using that as your guiding principle for the year. Some people take a religious approach to it, other's a more creative approach, but it's really grown to be different things to different people. I like using my word as my "theme" for the year. Sometimes I need to step back and meditate on that word and it helps remind me where my heart should be in the midst of the chaos.
    To answer your question, I'm in the Blue Ridge Mountains right outside of Washington, DC, so I am surrounded by nature. I can sit on my back deck and be surrounded by forest, which is nice!

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  17. Tobia | craftaliciousmeJanuary 2, 2019 at 3:04 AM

    I know the feeling of having a word that didn’t do anything for you. But you learn a lot from that too and maybe that is the value of the word. Wishing you all the best for your 2019 word. Looks like it fits perfectly from what you shared. I’ll be posting about my word today on the blog.

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  18. I agree. Choosing a word that doesn't work out is a great learning experience!

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  19. Peace is a really great word for this year Lecy! I have never done a word of the year. I have thought about doing it this year but I am still trying to figure out what that word would be. This year I want to stress less about things I can not control, primarily at work. I wish you the best of luck with your word this year! I know you can accomplish it!

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  20. If I had to pick a word, it would be grace. I have to learn how to give myself grace. I always feel like giving a year a word is too much pressure. I'd like to think by next December I'll have learned grace so it wouldn't be an accurate goal.

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  21. I think "grace" is a wonderful word! Giving ourselves grace isn't easy, but I know you'll make some progress on that this year. :)

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  22. Thanks, Mistle! I meant to congratulate you on your wedding when I saw the name change on FB. Hope you have a blessed 2019! <3

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  23. Oh Lecy, that is a really great word for 2019. I think finding peace - in yourself, with others, is so important (and I know myself not always easy to come by!). But recognizing that you can be empathetic without carrying someone else's burden is a great lesson to learn. I am hoping you'll find that peace this year.

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  24. Thank you, San! It's definitely not easy!

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