Tuesday, July 09, 2019

If You and I Had Coffee | vol 37

Join me for a conversation over coffee? #coffeedates #linkup



If you and I had coffee...

We'd meet up in the little community garden in the center of town, a place that has stone pathways lined with a rainbow assortment of delphinium, lupine, larkspur, cosmos, and coneflowers. We'd find a shady spot on the grass under one of the big willow trees and spread a blanket on the ground. From my bag, I'd pull out the thermos full of frosty lemonade and two cups, along with a little something for you, carefully packaged in a paper bag. You'd peek inside and find a few of my homemade mini fruit tarts - two each of apple, mixed berry, and peach. You'd select one for us to split and we'd settle in for our chat.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you how much I've been enjoying the Jubilee channel on YouTube. It's a group of young people that do social experiments via video on all sorts of topics from dating and romance to religion and other cultural hot button issues. I subscribed a few months ago and it has been so refreshing to hear other people's ideas and thoughts that often differ from my own. They really do make you stop and think before defaulting to what you typically believe and I always look forward to their weekly videos.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask for your opinion on whether or not I should write a monthly essay exclusively for my newsletter subscribers. For the last several months, I've been thinking about different ways I could make the newsletter more useful to the people who have signed up. I don't want it to be about self-promotion and instead, want to focus on sharing ideas and resources that can encourage and help make someone's day a little better. One of the reasons I'm so conflicted about whether to make the change is that I don't know how many people truly read and engage with the content I send out to inboxes around the world and if no one would take the time to read what I write, perhaps sharing it here or on one of my other platforms would be a better option. I'd love for you to share your thoughts on this with me.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I have this one relationship that has been both a rose and a thorn for the last four years. It's with someone I love dearly and have an incredibly strong connection with, but things are very complicated and I've been impatient and have tried to force the relationship in a direction it just wasn't ready to go in. It really has been like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. A few weeks ago, after coming to blows with this person and nearly walking away from them, I decided I was going to try a new approach and surrender my will to the divine timing of the universe. I learned something in the process. Sometimes, you have to be selfless and just be there for the person, because your support and love might be the only thing that is getting them through the day. Sometimes, it's more important to have them in your life, even if the outcome isn't what you hoped, because not having them around would be too great a loss.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I have a blogger pen pal that I've been exchanging emails with for the last few weeks and it's been so fun getting to know them better. They have been throwing some pretty tough questions at me in each letter and have been making me dig deep and think hard about some serious things, but there is also a lot of humor mixed in there and I've found myself laughing out loud more than I usually do. One of my core values and needs is deep connection and I love getting to know people on a more intimate basis, so my inbox is always open for a new friend.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I got teary-eyed while working on a project for my part-time job a few weeks ago. I was typing up a medical transcript and the file I was doing was a video recording of an appointment between a patient and his doctor. The patient had stage IV pancreatic cancer and the doctor was telling the patient that all treatment options had been exhausted and the patient only had months to live. Having worked in medicine for 15 years, I've seen so many of these conferences play out, but none of them were like this one. The patient was optimistic about what was to come. He said he felt great after discontinuing his chemotherapy and had no plans to die any time soon. He refused to stop living.

This man was such an inspiration to me and I had to share the story with you in hopes that you, too, would be inspired. So often, we are overwhelmed by all that is going on in the world, at large, and in our personal lives. Rather than rolling with the punches, we let each blow knock us down, and each time, it's a little more difficult to get up, when in the grand scheme of things, we still have breath. We still have life. While tomorrow might not be guaranteed, this moment is. And I choose to live. I hope you do too.

If you and I had coffee...

We'd finish our chat and take a leisurely stroll through the garden, admiring all the beautiful flora and lively fauna. I'd make sure your bag of baked goodies was tucked in your bag for safekeeping. I'd give you a hug and promise to see you again next time.


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What would you like to chat about over coffee?

Every second Tuesday of the month, we gather together with our favorite hot beverages and catch up. Care to join us? Our next date is Tuesday, August 13th. Hope to see you then!

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34 comments:

  1. shootingstarsmagJuly 9, 2019 at 7:57 AM

    That guy with cancer sounds like an amazing inspiration. I can't imagine being that far along with a disease that medicine would no longer help, and STILL feel optimistic. It's something to remember. And the beginning of this post where you talk about frosted lemonade...yum. I'm totally craving something cold and sweet. LOL

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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  2. Having a blogger pen pal sounds so fun!

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  3. Tabitha Bradley-RainesJuly 9, 2019 at 12:21 PM

    Having blogger pen pals sounds so neat and encouraging! And how about green tea or that lemonade instead of coffee? I need true coffee early early in the day or I won't sleep as well.

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  4. Pen pals sounds so fun!! I love your approach to these coffee date posts!

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  5. I always love what you share here, Lecy, so much. I’d love to try one of your fruit tarts and sip coffee and contemplate life. I’d also love to know more about this YouTube channel you’ve been watching lately. What the world needs now is more kindness and greater understanding and compassion, and seems like something like that would be wonderfully eye opening.

    Also. Being witness to a transcript like the one you heard must be an incredible gift. I wish I had this man’s resolve, that faced with the knowledge of having exhausted all treatment options he remains optimistic about his future: thanks for sharing his story here.

    Hope you have a wonderful week ahead, sweet friend, and yay for pen pals! PS: I gave up on three newsletter idea. I love it in theory but I felt like it would be an even bigger distraction.

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  6. That's so fun that you have a blogger pen pal! Love this whole piece and getting to know you better.

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  7. I was crying my eyes out while working on that project. I can only hope to be so positive when I'm at the end of my life.

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  8. The Jubilee channel has been amazing and has helped me break down some of my biases. And yes, listening to that conversation between the man and his doctor was something that changed me.

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  9. Oh, that garden sounds absolutely delightful! I can never have too many flowers! And that Jubilee channel sounds really interesting, I may have to check it out. Relationships can be so complicated sometimes. I pray that you’ll have the discernment to know the right direction, and the strength to be selfless when needed. I always love reading your coffee dates, Lecy. They’re so genuine and heartfelt. And since this is only a virtual coffee date, I’ll just have to make those baked goods myself!

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  10. Ohh I love this post so much! Thanks for sharing all of that about you, I really do feel like we are having coffee and those amazing sounding fruit tarts! ;)

    XO, Katie | http://www.meshkomoments.com

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  11. Christa Del GiornoJuly 10, 2019 at 9:14 AM

    Wow, the strength and optimism the patient displayed upon hearing such devastating news is admirable. I’d tear up listening to that conversation, too.

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  12. Thank you so much, Bella. Relationships can be complicated.

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  13. It was such a powerful interaction to witness.

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  14. I love this creative piece, Lecy! That frosted lemonade sounds so refreshing! I love the idea of sending out exclusive essay content to your newsletter. If you're wondering if people have the time to read it, could you maybe write a short, captivating piece that is just a few paragraphs long? Your writing is so beautiful that I'm sure it would make a huge impact even with a shorter length! :)

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  15. I would so love to just sit and have coffee with you lady! The conversation with the patient made me want to cry and clap all at the same time. To have such strength and faith is awesome. I love the newsletter idea! And those fruit tarts, Im gonna need in on those LOL . Sending lots of love your way!

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  16. Haha! I will happily share the tarts with you. And yes, that patient was so inspiring.

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  17. Aww, thank you so much, Sarah. You are the sweetest!

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  18. Having coffee with you would be such a treat. The topics you cover like love and loss are what make life worth living and I'd enjoy going there with you. Great creative piece. Let's make the sure the coffee is really good too!

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  19. What a funn post. Wish I had some of that lemonade!

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  20. What a lovely post. I wish we were really having coffee so you'd feel freer to open up about the relationships you cryptically refer to. Good luck with those.

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  21. Haha! There are a few things I'm sworn to secrecy on still. :)

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  22. Thank you so much for coming by to read, Kimanis! <3

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  23. Tobia | craftaliciousmeJuly 14, 2019 at 5:41 AM

    Always fun to read the coffee date posts. As for your questions with the newsletter: maybe you could sent the newsletter as you planned and then use the content at a later point on the blog. this way it will not be lost in case subscribers don't read it.

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  24. That is a great idea! Thanks for having coffee with me! :)

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  25. I think the essay in the newsletter (and in a later blog post) as suggested below is a great idea. Always fun to get to know bloggers better and I'm so glad you've made a new friend and who is giving you food for thought.
    That appointment between the Dr and his patient is so thought provoking. It is so easy to complain and focus on the negative but that patient's attitude is amazing.
    I totally hear you on surrendering your will to the divine timing of the universe. Going through something that requires a big decision and after days of debating pros and cons I've stepped back and handed it over because I cannot see what the future holds and might hopefully be stressing unnecessarily.
    xx

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  26. Thanks for the input on the newsletter, Anthea! Seems the general consensus is this exact idea. And thanks for coming by to have coffee with me today! <3

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  27. Hi, I'm Shin :) New to your blog but I'm glad I've found it. I really like your 'If you and I had coffee' posts, it's both refreshing as a idea and warming (do I make sense loool - maybe 'intimate' is the right word). I also like the Jubilee channel, although I miss their previous stuff when they did short films. I felt that engaged my emotions more!

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  28. Hi Shin! I'm glad you enjoyed the post. Thanks for coming by to read!

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