Tuesday, August 13, 2019

If You and I Had Coffee | vol 38

Join me for a conversation over coffee? #coffeedates



If you and I had coffee...

We'd meet up at this little cafe that has the best chai tea lattes around. We'd take our drink orders out to the wrought iron patio tables nestled under stone-colored umbrellas because it is gorgeous outside today. We are finally beginning to transition from the long humid days to a more enjoyable climate, and the warm breeze is too good to pass up.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask you how your month has been so far and to tell me something good that has happened for you recently. I'd tell you that August has been a great month for me already. I sat down at the end of July and set some intentional goals for my health, my relationships, and my writing career. One of my writing goals was to hit a daily word count and track it throughout the month. It would mean writing over 30,000 words in August and it would help me get back into a daily writing habit - something I've been neglecting recently.

I've unfortunately gotten into the habit of procrastinating when it came to writing. I blamed a lack of inspiration and not having enough time or energy. I made every excuse I could so I wouldn't have to sit down and write, but the longer I went on like that, the worse it got. Now, I sit down in front of a blank page and write something. If I can't work on outlining or fleshing out a freelance piece of something for the blog, I pick a journaling prompt from a long list I've built and just write. Usually, this stirs my inspiration pot and I am able to come up with ideas. Sometimes, I barely scratch out enough to meet my word count goal, but the daily practice is building up this brain muscle again.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that another goal I set for myself in August was to let go of negative energy in my life. One of the ways this is playing out is in my daily yoga routine. Normally, I do yoga for strength and flexibility, and the emotional benefits are a happy side effect. I'd do the different poses and get through my routine in a snap. This month, I'm focusing on yin yoga, where you hold the poses for two to five minutes at a time. Although it sounds pretty easy, I was surprised by how much emotional baggage comes up when you are forced to be still. The temptation is to quickly move on to the next pose, but I've been leaning into the frustration and breathing through it. This is NOT easy but I feel an incredible release at the end of my routines. On more than one occasion the release has been so powerful, it's brought me to tears.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I went through my jewelry box last week and have been trying to come to a decision about what to do with my old wedding band and engagement ring. It's been four years since I was a married woman, and these rings have been tucked away inside the little hand-carved wooden box that I received them in. They haven't been worn since the day I separated from the man who gave them to me, but I do love the rings. They are simple and minimalistic and so me. For this reason, I haven't wanted to sell them or have them repurposed into another piece of jewelry. It's been long enough now that I can look at them and not associate them with the relationship they initially represented. I've been thinking about wearing them again, on different fingers, obviously, but have been worried about the image that would present. I'd ask your opinion, because I do value it. Would it be weird if I wore these pieces that I love so much?

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I have been busy tweaking my monthly newsletter and finally feel like I have a design and aesthetic that I'm happy with. I got a lot of positive feedback on the last one that I sent out and hope that people continue to enjoy the content I share. I'd ask you if you have a newsletter for your blog or writing hustle. Do you like to read other writers' newsletters? What is the main factor in your decision to subscribe or not? This is one form of media that I really enjoy, so I'm always curious about what other people think.

If you and I had coffee...

We'd finish our drinks while chatting about our excitement for the back-to-school sales. Even though I don't have children of my own, I do enjoy stocking up on the stationery supplies I use while they are discounted and available in bulk. I'd tell you that I'm also thrilled that the autumn candles are hitting the shelves this month. We'd compare our favorite candle fragrances as we make our way out to the parking lot and ruefully end our chat with a hug and a promise to see each other again next month.


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Every second Tuesday of the month, we gather together with our favorite hot beverages and catch up. Care to join us? Our next date will be on Tuesday, September 10th. Hope to see you there!

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34 comments:

  1. Chai tea latte? Yes, please!

    Objects only have the meaning we give to them. If you've changed your relationship to the rings, wear 'em again. Enjoy their beauty as long as they don't make you feel bad.

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  2. I want to do more yin yoga as well. I love the focus that staying in one pose for an extended period of time brings. I'm not sure what I would do with your previous engagement/wedding rings...I think the right answer is just to do whatever makes you happiest!

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  3. I'm so glad that you are making time to write! And I always enjoy getting your newsletter as you know.
    I think what you do with your rings is your choice and it sounds like they are special to you. What other people think doesn't matter - they are your rings and if you want to wear them you should.
    Letting go of negative energy is something I really need to do. I keep meaning to spend more time doing yoga - that sense of calm that I get is just amazing - but I keep procrastinating :(

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  4. Beth Gilles KondrickAugust 13, 2019 at 2:29 PM

    I'd agree with you on how I've been trying to rid my life of negative energy as well and that I think doing daily yoga is a fantastic idea! I'd tell you that I've been making more time for reading, walking and relaxing and spending less time online as a way of trying to inject more positive vibes into my days and it seems to help.

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  5. Letting go of energy is so good for the soul. It's the best feeling ever when you do that. I've been loving the back to school sales. I'm a sucker for stationery and school supplies. I love reading your newsletters.

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  6. Procrastination is a constant struggle for me too. Hope you are able to find some time for that yoga! <3

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  7. It is a great feeling. And yes, the school supply sales are so fun. I could spend way too much money if I let myself go crazy. ;)

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  8. Yes, it does bring a new kind of focus. I need more of that in my life. :)

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  9. It's so good to let go of that negative energy. My life always feels stagnant until I do it. I want to do more walking. It's just been so humid here, so I'm looking forward to the cooler days to come. :)

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  10. Yes to expelling negative energy! It sounds like you've got some good goals set for yourself for the month (and I totally respect the writing goal, from one procrastinator to another!). I've been trying to set & hold some serious boundaries and write more, so we'll see where that goes.

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  11. If you and I had coffee...

    I'd ask you what your full yoga routine is and if you duplicate any of the moves day-to-day. I'm always curious about what each person's yoga flow looks like because I practice as well, but I sometimes feel as though I'm running out of poses I've mastered.

    I'd tell you that it's 100% fine to be wearing your rings, because they're incredibly special to YOU - and not because of what they initially represented. I was engaged once before I got married and I kept that ring for years because I thought it was just a lovely ring.

    I'd say that you motivate me to keep going with my blog and my photography and my other hustles because you are motivated yourself. Thank you for that!

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  12. I'm glad this new type of yoga is working for you. Sitting with emotions can be tough, but it's good to get it out sometimes! I think it's totally fine for you to wear your old rings. If you love them, and they make you happy, then do it. Their yours!

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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  13. I'm also trying to get rid of negative energy. I have enough personal stuff weighing me down and I can't take on external stuff. There can only be so much weight in the boat, you know?

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  14. I always love and look forward to these “if you and I had coffee posts.” Beautiful writing and always good for thought.

    I personally love that you are thinking of rewearing your wedding bands on different fingers and that you can assign them new meaning. We form so many mental faux on ourselves and like, if they are pieces of jewelry you love, out ‘em on and let them shine! I see nothing wrong with it.

    I can’t believe back to school season is upon us again but I’m a fan of supplies and the new-ness of the fall season. I manage to get swept up in it, too. ❤️

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  15. Oh, I love chai lattes! So good that you’re writing every day. I can be a big procrastinator too and motivating yourself to get into that rhythm is great. Letting go of negative energy is so important, and your yoga sounds like such an emotional release. Keeping the same pose for a few minutes would be challenging though! And I don’t see any problem with wearing your old rings on different fingers. Lovely to have coffee with you today, Lecy 💕

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  16. This is such a beautifully written post! Love the whole idea and concept of this, and I think if you love those rings, I don't think it's weird!








    Kileen
    cute & little

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  17. Love the way you approach this idea! We are working on removing the negativity from our lives as well. Good luck!!

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  18. It's so good to let those pent up emotions out!

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  19. I love your thoughts on the wedding bands. I'm embracing what they mean to me now. <3

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  20. Good luck with those boundaries! I'm working on that, myself. :)

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  21. I usually pick a routine from Yoga with Adriene (on Youtube) and stick with them. If I'm not working through one of her 30-day challenges, I'll just choose one that feels right for that specific day. But, there are some moves that feel good and give me a good stretch, so I'll repeat them throughout the day. :)

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  22. Procrastination can be so hard to get away from! The yoga is a great release. Just what I've needed lately. :)

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  23. Thanks for coming by to read, Kileen! <3

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  24. Ohhh fall candles! I have so many projects around that. I love this post, as a Language Arts teacher I was really excited looking at how much you love writing

    Lindifique

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  25. Oh, yes... take me out for a chai tea latte, please.

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  26. Tobia | craftaliciousmeAugust 18, 2019 at 5:48 AM

    Your writing goal is so impressive. But I totally understand the idea behind. Once you are into a routine it gets so much easier.
    As for the rings: if it feels right for you just go ahead with it I'd say. If you are still unsure how you feel maybe start wearing them just for yourself when you are around the house and see how it feels.
    Happy rest of August to you
    Tobia

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  27. Yes, it's hard to build a routine, but gets easier over time. :)

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  28. I love me some back-to-school supply shopping and I don't have kiddos either. It's kind of a problem the masses of supplies I own.
    Your yoga routine sounds wonderful. I loved yoga so much prior to getting hurt. I feel I am in a place where I need to start both yoga and working out again.
    And on the subject of your ring, you do you and not worry about what others think or feel about it. I feel my jewelry is me to a T and if you love it and it's not bringing up any residual negative feelings I say go for it!
    And candles. I always burn summer smells. Always. Despite loving the cooler temps, though I am still hanging on to August because my birthday is at the end, we have very cold stark winters--summer scents make me feel there is hope. I read once on a blog that more people considered August a throw-away month... and it is obviously my favorite.
    Also your writing goals-congrats on getting closer daily to getting past more or less a writers block!!
    As always thank you for hosting our coffee dates

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  29. There's nothing wrong with indulging in some school supplies, especially if they are put to use. Thanks for your perspective on the rings. I love some of the summery candles but my favorites are the ones that smell like woods and autumn. Basically, anything that smells like men's cologne. :)

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