Tuesday, October 08, 2019

If You and I Had Coffee | vol 40

Join me for a conversation over coffee? #coffeedates



If you and I had coffee...

We'd meet up at the local pumpkin patch because they have the best apple cider around, and as soon as we pull up, their bakery draws us in with the aroma of cinnamon, and clove, and baked fall goodies. I'd ponder over whether to order the mulled cider or get a cup of it chilled and decide on the latter because it's still so warm outside. We'd take our drinks and climb aboard the hay wagon that ran tours around the ten-acre farm property and made frequent stops at the actual pumpkin field, dropping patrons off and picking them up on the next circle 'round.

We'd chat about the gorgeous landscape as the wagon made its way through rows of apple trees, and you'd point out the sheep and donkeys grazing in a pasture off in the distance. We'd both agree that this wagon ride would be so spooky on a dark autumn night and imagine a cozy bonfire and toasted marshmallows afterward. Eventually, our wagon would turn around a bend and in the clearing, we'd arrive at the pumpkin fields, hopping off to look around and pick out one to take home.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I have a doctor's appointment coming up this week and I'm feeling very anxious about it. I'll be having some testing done and it's been a while since the last time I've seen my numbers, so I'm worried about what they will indicate. I haven't been feeling my best over the last few months, and I know the news won't be good, but I am hopeful that it's something that I can manage on my own with medication dose changes and adjusting my routines. I'd ask if you get nervous before doctor's appointments and what you do to quell your fears.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd share that sometimes I miss living in the city. When I was in college, I lived in the suburbs of Washington, D.C. and loved being close to everything. I was within walking distance to the grocery store and a shopping mall, and there was a community park on the other side of my neighborhood. It was only a short drive into the heart of the city and there were so many opportunities to get out and do things. I was so active because I was able to do a lot of walking or could even ride a bike in my local town.

Now that I live in the middle of a mountain range out in the country, I feel cut off from the rest of the world. It takes twenty minutes by car to get into town where there is a grocery store or any restaurants. The closest mall or movie theater is nearly an hour away. I do love the peace and quiet that comes with living in a rural area, but I'd confess that I miss being close to my friends and am frustrated that I don't have as many opportunities to get out and stay active.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I'm considering becoming a foster mama to a cat or a dog. I miss my sweet Harley so much, but I'm not sure that I'm ready to adopt and take on the life-long responsibility of having a pet again. I'd really love to foster a dog because the obligation to take her out for walks would be a good excuse to take myself out for walks, and let's be honest, I could always use some more exercise. I also miss the companionship of having an animal around. My depression and anxiety are always better managed when I have a dog or cat, and they help keep my stress levels low. For now, I'll just heart-eyes over all the cute animals I follow on Instagram.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that lately, I've been pondering the idea of roads not taken. I'm working on an essay on the topic and became very emotional as I was writing the other day. I found that I was thinking about someone and was maybe even writing to that person as I was drafting the piece. This is someone who chose the other road and has since realized that perhaps it was not the right choice. But there are a lot of instances in my own life where I've chosen to go a certain direction when I've come to a fork in the road, and I always wonder what would have come from a choice for the other road.

Would my life look differently? Would I be around the people I have in my life now or would I have an entirely new circle of friends? While I know it's impossible to go back and change the choices we've made in the past, I do think it's healthy to look at those choices and realize that they've all been building blocks to put us exactly where we are today, in this moment.

If you and I had coffee...

We'd pick out our pumpkins and grab the next hay wagon ride back up to the front of the farm property. We'd go into the little building that houses the general store so we could pay for our pumpkins, pick up a few other goodies, and order another cup of cider for the road. We'd get back to the parking lot with our arms full, and after stashing everything in our respective vehicles, I'd give you a big hug and promise we'd meet up again soon.

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What would you like to chat about over coffee?

Every second Tuesday of the month, we gather together with our favorite hot beverages and catch up. Care to join us? Our next coffee date will be on Tuesday, November 12th. Hope to see you then!

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36 comments:

  1. You paint such a lovely picture of this farm. I'm actually hoping to go somewhere similar this weekend if the weather cooperates aka no rain. It's definitely interesting to think of all the paths your life could have gone down and where you'd be now if you'd chosen differently.

    I think fostering an animal would be wonderful!! I don't know if I'll get a cat or a dog next, but I hope it's not too long for my family because it really does make things better to have an animal there when you get home.

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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  2. Citytoast SouthteaOctober 8, 2019 at 10:19 AM

    This is pretty cool for a blog post tag. I may need to write one myself. This could be fun.

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  3. What a great idea for a post! I love apple cider, but greatly prefer chilled over mulled. I'd love to foster kittens and cats but my dog would not appreciate it at all and stress everyone out.

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  4. Girl, I've missed reading your posts, I've been away for so long! I am so happy to hear you are doing well! Don't be anxious about your doctors appointment, everything will be just fine, girl! And I absolutely hope you adopt a new pet, it's the best thing I've ever done for my mental health! Hang in there girly! xoxo

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  5. This is such a fantastic idea! I love the sense of community being fostered here :)

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  6. I agree. It is always nice to have a fuzzy friend waiting for you when you get home. :)

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  7. We would love to have you join us! The linkup is open for a week and we do this the second Tuesday of every month. <3

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  8. Chilled apple cider is so refreshing, isn't it?

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  9. Aww, I've missed seeing you around too! <3

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  10. Yes! We love our little coffee date community. :)

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  11. Hoping for good news with your doctors appointment!! Sending you lots of prayers and positive vibes!




    Kileen
    cute & little

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  12. A bakery that smells like cinnamon and cloves sounds like a lovely place to meet! We've reached a point in the year where our weather might actually be fairly similar. I'll be praying for your doctors appointment and your results. It comes down to putting it all into God's hands and trusting that he works all things for good (although much easier said than done, I know!) I hope you do get a dog or a cat! The work involved is totally worth the love and companionship. And having a pet around definitely is good for mental health. It's amazing to think about how different life would be if I made different choices, but then it also makes me thankful for the choices I did make and the life I have now. This was a particularly beautiful post of yours this month, Lecy. Lovely to have coffee with you today!

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  13. Thank you so much for your prayers, Bella. <3

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  14. Such a lovely post, Lecy! It would be so fun to pick pumpkins, ride a hay wagon, and drink hot cider. Reading this put me in such an autumn mood--thank you! You truly have a delightful way with words, and your coffee dates are so enjoyable. :)

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  15. That pumpkin patch and bakery sounds amazing. I'm sorry you are feeling anxious about your Doctor's appointment - saying a prayer beforehand is what I do when I'm nervous about something. My Dad has had loads of eye ops this year and before each I worry and stress and then remember that in prayer I can hand over my fears. I'll keep your Dr's appointment in my prayers and hope that all goes well and your numbers are good.

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  16. The pumpkin patch sounds like so much fun! We're getting ready to take our daughters this weekend. Who doesn't love a bakery, by the way? :) I hope you get good news at the doctor's office. I am not a fan of taking tests because I fear the results, as well! Good luck!

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  17. I sure hope that your appointment goes well! And girl, DC is a blast. I can understand missing the city. I live outside of Richmond, but close enough to do all the good stuff - and if I moved into the country/mountains, I'd miss it too! If we had coffee right now, I'd tell you that I'm scared about my dad's stroke and the affect that it's had on his life over the past 3 weeks. I'd tell you that I'm trying to rebrand my blog right now, and feeling so inspired, but also totally scared about all the work and expense it will take. I'd tell you that I'm beyond overwhelmed with where I'm at in life right now, but I'm attempting to push through. But I'm honestly hoping it'll get easier soon. Trying to keep my head up!

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  18. I'd love to spend the day in that kind of pumpkin patch and bakery! I'm sending you all the good thoughts for your doctor's appointment. I try to do some meditation before a doctor appointment if I'm nervous or even just say some prayers (I was raised Catholic so the rosary works wonders). I think fostering is a lovely idea when you're not sure you're ready for a permanent new furry love. Look how well that worked out for Charlotte. And there are so many cats and dogs who need a temporary home and someone to love them! I hope it works out for you. I enjoyed our coffee chat this month my friend. All the hugs to you.

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  19. This is such a special post! Makes me wish we could have coffee together!

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  20. What a fun post idea! If we were having coffee I'd tell totally encourage you to foster a kitty or dog! I was at first a weekends-only foster for a local dog rescue, then became a foster for however long the dog needed it, and then became a foster failure when I adopted my pup! It was so fun, so rewarding and 9 years later Cinnamon and I are the best of friends.

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  21. That's a great perspective to have. I like the idea of handing over my worries and trusting that all will be well. :)

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  22. I know a lot of people who use the rosary or even meditation beads when they are praying. I love that idea and think it's a great way to focus on something else instead of what you're worried about. Yes! Charlotte is my foster mama role model. :)

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  23. Aww, thank you so much, Sarah. I'm hoping to get everyone in the autumn mood before long. <3

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  24. Taking kids to the pumpkin patch is the best, right? Thanks for your sweet wishes, Ashley. <3

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  25. Thank you, sweet friend. I love Richmond. That is a city I could see myself living in. There is so much to do, but it still feels like a small town. Good luck with that blog rebrand. Can't wait to see it when you're done! <3

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  26. Thanks, Shayla. It would be so fun to have coffee together! <3

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  27. Aww, I love hearing stories of foster fails! Cinnamon sounds lucky to have found you. <3

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  28. A coffee/cider date sounds so nice! I hope your doctor's appointment goes well and you get answers to your questions. I always get anxious before appointments, but I find that it helps to write down everything I hope to talk to my doctor about. That way, it gets out of my head and helps me to remember everything when I'm at the appointment. Sending positive thoughts and vibes your way!

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  29. Thanks for your sweet words, Monica. Writing things down is a great idea! <3

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  30. I know it's now Wednesday evening but I will pray 4 your doctor even if you already got the results that it be something manageable. I love the visual you are always able to convey with your writing each month!!

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  31. Love this, my sweet friend. And I am absolutely no expert on the matter whatsoever but bryan and I have fostered close to 10 dogs over the years and I’m always here if you ever need someone to talk to about it, I miss it so much and the fact that you’re even considering is so wonderful. Pets can do wonders for our moods and spirits. Please don’t ever hesitate to come to me if you have questions or need help on anything!

    I’m going pumpkin and apple picking this weekend and am SO amped for the apple cider donuts they have at this one farm. Omg they are legendary and always served fresh hot out of the oven ❤️

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  32. Tobia | craftaliciousmeOctober 12, 2019 at 3:15 AM

    I love the way you write your intros to those posts.
    I live downtown Berlin and I crave the peace and quite you are describing. And if I could Id live there too. But I can totally understand wanting to live in the city and having everything at the tip of your fingers. I guess its human nature to always look to things one doesn't have.
    Have a wonderful weekend and I hope your appointment went better than expected.
    Cheers

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  33. Thank you so much! I will definitely reach out to you with questions. <3

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  34. There are good things and bad to living both in a city and in the country. It's nice to have a change every so often. :)

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