Tuesday, November 12, 2019

If You and I Had Coffee | vol 41

Join me for a conversation over coffee? #coffeedates



If you and I had coffee...

I'd invite you over for a low-key date that involved a variety of flavored coffee pods and tea bags and a box of those store-bought donuts. You know, the ones with the powdered sugar on them. Even though I'm fighting a cold, I wouldn't want to miss out on my opportunity to chat with you before the holidays are in full swing. We'd plop down on the couch and probably turn on a Christmas movie to play in the background. Maybe White Christmas, which is one of my favorites.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I'm feeling a little jealous of my friends who live in the Midwest because so many of them are posting Instagram pictures of the snow they are getting already. The forecast has hinted about some winter weather here, but so far, not a flake has been seen. I love snow and it always puts me in the mood to bake, so I make sure I'm stocked up on all the pantry staples whenever Mother Nature decides to blanket this mountain with the frozen precip. I have a huge list of cookies and candy I want to make over the holiday season, and the sooner I start, the happier I'll be.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd share with you this interesting article that I'd read recently about the importance of not making your children hug adult relatives over the holidays. I could relate to it so much. I have never enjoyed showing physical affection to someone unless I'm very close to them, and can remember how uncomfortable large extended-family holiday gatherings made me when I was a child. I never enjoyed visiting Santa at the mall and sitting on his lap for a photo, so the idea that there would be kids out there who shy away from that kind of thing, even if it's an aunt or uncle, makes a lot of sense to me.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I've made a decision to discontinue the use of Google advertising on the blog, at least for the time being. I do enjoy the option to make a little extra money on the side, but Adsense just released a new feature that places ads anywhere on the site, and I found that some of my content was covered up or shifted off-screen completely. Unfortunately, there were few options to change the placement or choose where I wanted to allow the ads to run. After researching the problem a little, I learned that it was a common complaint after this feature was added, so I decided that it was better to turn them off until the kinks were worked out. In my opinion, nothing is worth that great a headache.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask you where your favorite places were to get candles. I love burning candles and have some favorite brands but have noticed something strange lately. Some of the candles are leaving a black soot up the wall wherever they are being used. I've never had problems like this before, especially with brands that claim to be clean, soy-based products. It worries me because if they are leaving that much pollution on the wall, I can't help but wonder what I could be breathing in. So, I think it's time to start shopping for new candles and would love to hear any recommendations you have.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd share with you that this season, I've had to step back and listen to my body more than I ever have before. Health hasn't been my friend lately and this is usually the time of year where I'm pushing myself to prepare for the big holidays. Between cooking our family Thanksgiving meal for over twenty people and all the holiday baking I enjoy doing, the season is so busy. I'm working on planning a schedule that will allow me more days to work, but spread out so I have plenty of time to rest in between. I've also decided (with the help of my mom and sisters) that this Christmas, I'll just do a big grazing board instead of cooking a full meal. Many of my siblings are married or partnered up, so they usually split the day between our family and the in-laws. It will be much easier to have more snacky foods instead of preparing a meal and juggling everyone's schedules.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask about what you and your family do for the holidays. Do you celebrate with extended family or keep it more intimate? Of course, I'd ask what kind of food you do and if one person cooks or if everyone contributes something. Or maybe you go out for a meal or order take-out? I'm always curious about how different families celebrate holidays around the world.

If you and I had coffee...

We'd finish the rest of our movie, not wanting to rush our laid-back meetup - and probably have another donut. No shame here, right? When it was time to go, I'd give you a hug and promise that we'd do it again soon. I'm sure it will be here before we know it. Maybe next time, we'll have some snow!


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Every second Tuesday of the month, we gather together with our favorite hot beverages and catch up. Care to join us? Our next coffee date will be on Tuesday, December 10th. Hope to see you there!

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30 comments:

  1. This sounds like a nice visit! I'd ask for Diet Coke though ;) I am not a fan of coffee. But I do like to get together and chat now and again.

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  2. Adsense is so annoying, you did the right thing darling

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  3. OH I love this post idea! I am very ready for any kind of wintery weather that may be coming about this year. I live in Portland, so we don't get much, but I'd be way into it if we did.

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  4. My go-to for candles is BBW, but I also enjoy the Rewined ones, since they upcycle old wine bottles, are soy-based, and smell great! My family consists of just me and my mom, and we run pretty hot and cold. I've spend the holidays completely alone, I've spent it with exes and my current love and their families, and I've spent it with just my mom. One tradition we used to have fairly religiously was getting Chinese food and watching a (holiday) movie though. What's your holiday tradition?

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  5. This sounds like my kind of coffee date! I'm totally jealous of all my northern friends' snow pictures too :)

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  6. As a Midwesterner I must tell you that you DO NOT want our freezing temperatures right now--it's horrible!

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  7. Nothing wrong with a low-key coffee date sometimes! I hope your health improves and hope you look after yourself in this holiday season. I'm so jealous of all the US bloggers posting about winter. Over here we have catastrophic fire warnings and extreme heat! I'm all for the importance of children consenting to hugs and allowing them to decline respectfully. This Christmas, we're doing church in the morning and then going to my husband's family for lunch. We'll go see my family the day after. We try not to make things too busy on the day but this season always seems jam packed! Lovely to have coffee with you today, Lecy!

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  8. I love coffee and I love chatting! So what a perfect combination!!

    Kileen
    cute & little

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  9. I hope you get some snow soon! I got some, but nothing too outrageous. I'm going to my brother and sister in law's house this Thanksgiving and she's cooking, but my sister will make her stuffing I believe. I like the idea of a grazing board/snacks for Christmas since people will be in and out and celebrating at different places. Good idea!

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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  10. I'd love to curl up with some donuts and a movie! That sounds lovely. I've been getting local candles made by a gal who does soy based candles and so far they don't seem to do the black soot thing. I took a class on how to make them with her too. I should find out if she ships at all. We also like beeswax candles, they aren't scented but they burn nicely and again, no black soot! We'll be doing Thanksgiving with my family on the day of and my husband's family a couple of days later. I'm glad we have a chance to celebrate with everyone. I'm glad we had this chance to chat over some coffee! :)

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  11. Ohhhhh,the candle thing- it generally is what they are using as the wick. The metal interior or materials can do that. I use the ones from BBW (is it white barn candle co) or the ones called Our Own Candle Co. I get those at Real Deals but they are sold online also. And I do love the Yankees because they seem to burn for an eternity.
    And THANK YOU for posting the article about hugging. I took an 'F' in a Psych class in high school because the way we started class was by hugging everyone. NO.THANK.YOU. I also hate some churches for that reason. Hi-5, Fist-Bump sign me up. Hugging, hells-to-the-no. (I also switched to Humanities from that terrible class and gained my voice because my teacher pushed me right out of my shell, maybe too much).
    Thank you so much for hosting our Coffee's every month. I am shocked you don't have snow. We had snow 5 days into fall and it just comes when it wants, and leaves when it wants and on days when I am dressed either in boots or sandals is when it decides to be nice or snow.
    Have a beautiful weeK

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  12. I had never seen a post like this before, but I’m glad I did. I really enjoyed our “coffee date!”

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  13. We got snow last night! Not much, but it's a start. :)

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  14. It would be so fun to make some candles. I'm going to do some searching to see if there is a class nearby. :)

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  15. I would have DIED in a class like that. That sounds like a terrible experience. There was a viral video going around about a teacher who had her kindergarten students line up at the door as she was greeting them and choose from three pictures on the wall - a hug, a hi-5, or a dance. I love that she gave her students the option of whether they wanted to be touched or not.

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  16. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who felt that way!

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  17. I'm with you. Bring on the winter weather!

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  18. I'm going to look for the Rewined candles. I love the idea of using recycled bottles in the packaging!

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  19. Sometimes you just need a cozy coffee date! :)

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  20. The entire Northeast is in a polar plunge right now. Definitely not typical for the middle of November.

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  21. I've heard about the fire warnings. That's so scary. I hope you and your family are safe and away from any danger of fire. I also hope it cools down and you get some rain to help put out those fires.

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  22. Tobia | craftaliciousmeNovember 16, 2019 at 4:38 PM

    I am also very much excited for the holidays to come our way. I have no plans yet on what cookies to make but I sure look forward to. Our Christmas dinner is always prepared by my dad. A very regional's dish a sort of ham that is cooked in a bread loaf. My mom does the potato salad and While they do that I usually decorate the Christmas tree and my husband is writing our annual holiday email. We just discussed if we will celebrate Christmas with my family again or if we want to try being by ourselfs. Not yet decided though. Also I hope you feel better soon.

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  23. You can never go wrong with coffee and donuts. I wish we could get a bit of snow. I hope you get some snow. I think everyone should read that article about not making children hug adult relatives over the holidays.

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  24. The ham in a bread loaf sounds interesting!

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  25. I love candles and buy from Woolworths or from Pure which is a place in Hermanus. I also like the Soy Lites range.
    Christmas for us is quiet, just the two of us time. Our anniversary is close and so we celebrate for a few days and don't put ourselves through the endless rushed have-to-see-every-person-in-our-family tradition we used to back in the day.
    You can never please everyone and one year we celebrated on Christmas Eve, then twice on Christmas and just ended up feeling exhausted.
    I'm glad you are listening to your body and putting your health first. It is so important but extremely essential this time of year.

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  26. I really enjoy quiet holidays now that I'm getting older. :)

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