Tuesday, February 11, 2020

If You and I Had Coffee | vol 44

Join me for a conversation over coffee? #coffeedates



If you and I had coffee...

I'd invite you over to my place and we'd brew up our favorite hot beverages on the Keurig, old school style. We'd take our drinks out to the covered front porch and sit in the big wooden rocking chairs where I'd surprise you with a plate of pound cake. Because, why not? It is rainy but unseasonably warm here, and the raindrops are making a delightfully calming plopping sound in the garden.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd confess that I'm feeling very anxious at the moment. I've been having some symptoms that could indicate something very bad, but I'm trying to keep my spirits up until I know for sure what is going on. I've had some scares in the past, and most of them have turned out just fine, but my mind always goes to the worst-case scenario so that I'm mentally prepared for anything. If you are the praying type, I'd ask you to pray for these symptoms to resolve, or at least to be nothing serious. If you aren't the praying kind, maybe you could send some positive thoughts my way as I wait for test results? I'd be so grateful for either.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask you if you have ever made your own bread. I'm talking about following a recipe and mixing it up in a bowl, tossing it out on the counter and kneading it by hand, letting it rise, then kneading it again. When I feel stressed, I always turn to the kitchen. I'll cook for anyone who might be near, but there is no greater therapy than kneading bread. You get your hands all messy and are able to work through any troubled thoughts while you expand the gluten strands and build character and strength in the bread. I'd recommend that next time you're feeling stressed, to get in the kitchen and try your hand at bread-making. Even homemade biscuits will work.

If you and I had coffee...

Speaking of dough, I'd warn you to be careful if you ever make cloud dough, specifically the kind with cornstarch in it. I made some with my niece and nephew a few weeks ago and went into the cupboard that it was stored in only to discover that it had gone bad. It had molded and it smelled terrible, even though it was in an airtight container. I'm guessing cornstarch will turn if it's mixed with liquid ingredients, so beware. The kids will be bummed that I had to toss it, but we'll have to make some of the regular salt playdough next time we hang out together.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that from the conversations I've had with people over the course of my adult life, I was surprised how many don't know what certain fruits and vegetables look like, and they don't know how to properly cut them. I shared these two videos (fruits and vegetables) in my newsletter at the beginning of the month, but I have to share them again because we have so many amazing and delicious things that grow fresh across the globe and it would be a shame not to know how to enjoy them!

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I recently went through and turned off all the notification sounds on my phone and laptop. I figured out that if I put my phone to sleep while I'm working, I'll leave it alone unless I hear a notification. Then, I always have to look to see what it is. Since I turned off the sounds, I've been much better at leaving my phone alone when I'm busy doing other things. I still get the notifications, so I can stay up to date on emails and text messages, but I'm not constantly picking up my phone anymore. What a time saver!

If you and I had coffee...

I'd share with you that I think I've found the secret to staying productive - other than the notification thing I mentioned above. Someone I follow on Instagram shared that she sets the mood for a productive workday. She lights candles and brews a cup of tea. She'll even turn on instrumental music in the background so she has a happy environment to begin working. I realized that this was just what I needed. I've always approached my workday with a checklist and a sense of dread. It made it feel like I was doing work that I didn't enjoy, but I get to write every day and I love doing it, so why not make my environment something that celebrates my work?

If you and I had coffee...

We'd finish our coffees and the last few crumbs of the pound cake. I'd tell you that every day, I'm seeing more signs of an early spring approaching. Some friends have been sharing photos of daffodil and crocus bulbs peeking up from the ground. I've noticed a few trees developing the little buds where leaves will soon be unwrapping themselves. I'd confess that I'm a little sad because I love snow so much and we didn't get much this year, but it is exciting to watch for the new signs of life. You'd agree that it feels like spring is just around the corner before you give me a hug and open your umbrella to head out into the warm February rain.


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36 comments:

  1. I've always wanted to try making bread but figured it was too hard. I'd attempt it if I had help. It's important to turn off electronic devices when working; distractions interfere with concentration.

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  2. Girl- just go to the doctor. Seriously. If you have weird symptoms, just go and be done with it. Delaying it always makes it worse. That's my mom voice. ;) I also have all of my notifications off and it is SO nice. I didn't realize how much of a distraction it was until I did that.

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  3. Sitting on the porch and watching the rain sounds absolutely lovely! Sorry to hear about your anxiety. Praying that the symptoms ease and you can get the help you need, both physically and mentally. I've baked bread a few times and I agree there's something very tactile and therapeutic about it. Glad that you've found something that brings you peace. Good idea about turning off phone notifications too! I love your idea of creating a special environment for being productive. I wonder if that would work as a stay at home mum too! Lovely to have coffee with you again, Lecy!

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  4. I love these coffee posts from you. They are so special! Yes, I make my own bread fairly often. And yes, I will pray for you!!!!

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  5. Bread is pretty simple as long as you follow a good recipe. And yes, I am learning how important turning the devices off is.

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  6. Oh, I've been to the doctor many times. I'm just waiting on test results. :)

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  7. I think it would work. Even just lighting a candle and turning on music while your little one is napping can make it feel like time just for you. :)

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  8. Aww, thanks so much for coming by to read Shayla. <3

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  9. I really hope that your health scare and worrisome symptoms calm down and that you start feeling better! I also have turned off the notifications on my phone, I realized I was on edge every time it went off. It has helped me stay present with my family and relax more.

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  10. Thank you Emily. You’re right - it is much easier to stay present!

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  11. Pound cake sounds delicious and like a lovely surprise! I will definitely be praying for you that these symptoms go away or that your test results show nothing wrong. I would tell you that we make our own sourdough bread and it's quite delicious though a lot of work! My other favorite bread to make is coco bread, it's a Jamaican style bread made with coconut milk and it is so good. I love making it. I give you so many hugs my friend and please keep me posted.

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  12. Wow I love this idea for a post. Mostly because getting coffee with good friends is basically my love language.

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  13. This post is so vulnerable and I love it! I've been extremely anxious lately too, it's nice to know I'm not the only one. I'm sorry that yours is waiting on test results, that can be really scary. I hope everything is okay and I'm believing for the best possible outcome for you! I'd love to share a cup of joe with you in real life, it sounds like it would be really pleasant.

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  14. Haha I could relate to the second paragraph.. Such a lovely post. Coffee triggers so many emotions.

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  15. I have never made my own bread! It is something I would love to do one day! I want to learn to bake better.

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  16. What a beautiful coffee linkup. I’d love to sit in a porch rocking chair and sip warm coffee as I eat pound cake (yum!). It has rained so much the post few days here, and I was so happy to see the sun today. What a difference it made ❤️ I bc didn’t know corn starch went bad but now I’ll have to check the expiration date on the box in our pantry. Also I’ve never made bread but I imagine it would be very cathartic. And I do love to bake/cook—it relaxes me, too. I me to shut off the notifications in my phone, too. I hear the noise and instinctively have to pick it up, you’re right—we must waste so much time in the day with these unconscious little acts.

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  17. I love this! I definitely need to tune out the noise!!!!!

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  18. If you and I had coffee:
    I'd tell you that these are my favorite posts to read from you. They're so eloquently written and they make me want to grab a mug and chat with you in person!
    I'd tell you that I'm so sorry you've been feeling anxious lately. I have too. Things have been really, really tough, mentally. I've had some manic bipolar episodes and panic attacks that have been especially scary and I just wish that my mental health didn't play so deeply into my chronic illness, because now that's a mess too.
    I'd tell you that I used to bake bread with my mom as a little girl and I loved it. But my townhome has absolute no counter space, so baking in general now is nearly impossible, and it makes me sad. I miss the relaxing feeling that baking brought.
    I'd tell you that turning off notifications is the BEST (but that I also have such a hard time not checking my phone throughout the day anyways). I DO, however, create a calming atmosphere to work in. In fact, I giggled while reading this because I happen to have a hot mug of tea next to me, and I'm listening to soft jazz while working right now. And it's wonderful.
    And I'd tell you that I hope you have a wonderful weekend and that I can't wait to chat again soon!

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  19. I’ve actually been working on making all kinds of homemade breads! It’s very calming for me to do and having fresh a bread all of the time is great!

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  20. Oh, I've been craving a marble pound cake for weeks now... I think I have to get baking this weekend.

    I am hoping that your symptoms turn out to be nothing! It's so scary to not know what's going on. Good vibes coming your way!!

    I love to bake bread - it's an almost soothing ritual.

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  21. Coco bread sounds delicious. I might have to try that!

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  22. It’s amazing how much time is wasted just looking at notifications on our phones. I don’t regret turning them off.

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  23. Marbled pound cake is so good! I’m going to make some soon.

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  24. Meeting friends for coffee is good for the soul. :)

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  25. Oh Courtney, I hope you get some relief from your own anxiety. That’s no fun. <3

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  26. You should definitely try to make bread. It’s a wonderful process.

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  27. Thank you Stephanie. That’s so sweet of you. I’m so sorry to hear that things have been tough for you mentally, but hope they improve soon. <3

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  28. Having fresh, homemade bread is always a bonus and the process of making it is so therapeutic. :)

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  29. Tobia | craftaliciousmeFebruary 15, 2020 at 8:15 AM

    As always it is wonderful to join in on this date. The pound cake sounds so good right now.
    I am sorry to hear about the symptoms and sending many good vibes that it will all solve positively. The mind is a funny thing and can get so carried away. I've turned of almost all notifications on my phone. I am still too distracted. I might need to put it in another room one of those days to catch up on work.

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  30. I have a friend who puts her phone on silent and then in a box while she’s working. She has a rule that she can’t open the box until a predetermined time and it works great.

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  31. I'm sorry that you are feeling anxious about medical tests and I will keep you in my prayers. I pray that it isn't serious and in the meantime you find peace while you wait to hear further. I hope you'll let us know how it goes. I often feel very fortunate for blog friends from all over the world and how technology has made staying in contact easy.

    I have never made bread but it always looks relaxing and maybe I should try it sometime.
    Good for you switching off the notifications. I did this with Whatsapp a while ago and the difference was amazing. I now check it when I'm on my phone but it doesn't notify me with each message.

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  32. Thank you, friend. And you should try making bread some time. It's a lot of fun!

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