Tuesday, May 12, 2020

If You and I Had Coffee | vol 47

Join me for a conversation over coffee? #coffeedates



If you and I had coffee...

We'd connect online, yet again, as these virtual meetups have become the new standard. I'd sit on my bed and log on with my phone while sipping a mug of warm tea. When you appear on the screen, I'd ask if you can hear the rain outside because it is pouring and I'd be worried about the sound of it interfering with our conversation. We'd joke that the one benefit of meeting for our coffee dates digitally would be that we could stay in our pajamas or sweats and not have to put on any makeup or mess with our hair too much.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask how you are and tell you that I didn't want the superficial answer that we all tend to give when asked that question. I'd want to really know how you're doing. I'd tell you that I am starting to feel very restless. I've been out of my house twice since the beginning of the year, and while I'm used to social distancing during flu season because of my health issues, I'm to the point where I just want to get out. I want to do my own grocery shopping, strolling through the produce aisle, taking my time as I choose each item. I want to go get my hair cut, and look for swimsuits, and visit with my siblings, and doing all the things I would normally be doing at this time of the year. Cabin fever is a real thing and I am feeling it hard right now.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that we are having quite the rainy season. In this region, April is usually a very saturated month, but it's rained every day so far in May and that is adding to my restlessness. I enjoy sitting on the covered porch and listening to the rain, but not being able to get out and walk has been tough. I feel like I shouldn't complain, as we have had some summers of drought in recent years, and the risk of wildfires in these mountains can be high, but I'd give anything for a week of warm sunshine and being able to take a book out to the deck and get some of that sweet vitamin D.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I'm getting back to some of my routines in the month of May. I'm back to doing daily yoga and I'm feeling so much stronger and more alert. I'm doing Adriene's 30-day True program, which is the one month-long series that I always go back to. She's done many others, but this one just feeds my soul. I love the way she has set up the progression of workouts to build on each other, but it also creates an emotional rhythm, so that when you get to the end of the program, you feel like you've accomplished something great. My health has been pretty crappy the last few months and I could have made many excuses to skip a day, but I'm really proud of myself for pushing through my discomfort and staying on track.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that one of the other routines I'm returning to is goal setting. I used to do monthly goal posts on the blog, and then switched to quarterly goals, but stopped because I felt like they were becoming redundant. When I stopped posting my goals, I also stopped setting them. This has not been a good thing for my productivity, so I'm going back to them. I'm not sure if I want to share them on the blog again or not, but for now, I have a document saved on my computer where I use the same format as those old posts and am keeping track of them that way. I'd ask you if you set goals and if so, how you keep track of your progress. I'd also be curious about whether you do monthly goals or quarterly ones.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd take a moment and vent to you about how I'm so tired of seeing people spreading false information and conspiracy theories online, especially when it comes to the coronavirus. I find it inconceivable how gullible some people are, and I am left speechless every day when I see yet another piece of propaganda on my Facebook feed. I can understand how easy it is to get things wrong when you have publications that look like they are trustworthy, posting false information, but we, as a collective, need to get better about media literacy and insisting that the media we consume is factual.

I'd share two resources that I have found helpful when figuring out who and what to believe these days. One is the media bias chart that shows most major news organizations and where they fall on the scale of bias-neutrality and fact-reporting over analysis and opinion. It's been super helpful when determining whether an article is worth my reading time. The other resource is the media literacy series that was done by Crash Course. Both of these make me feel better-informed, especially as we head into another national election season here in the U.S.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask what you've been eating during this lockdown. I would not be coming from a place of judgement. I just always find it interesting what people eat, day-to-day. I sometimes binge on people's "what I eat in a day" vlogs on YouTube or Instagram. It's the voyeur in me. Anyway, I'd tell you that my local farm that I get CSA boxes from is now offering a "misfits" box full of produce that is either misshapen, discolored, or past it's prime. The last box I got cost $20 and was full of fantastic stuff. When I saw all that deliciousness, I set a little goal for myself to do recipes that would use up all of it before anything went bad.

The only items I have left are three tomatoes, a zucchini, one butternut squash, and part of the hydroponic lettuce head that will continue to grow in water. I have recipes planned for all of it and the next box is coming tomorrow. I'd totally recommend checking with your local farm or CSA and see if they offer a box like this because it is such a bargain.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask for your thoughts on something I've been thinking about. I recently watched a video that featured the world's biggest ball of paint. There's a cute story behind it, and I'd let you watch the video to hear it, but it got me thinking about world records and whether sharing that you have the biggest something, in turn, invites others to try to beat your record. Essentially, you could have a record that would soon be beaten by someone else, but if you never shared it with the world, others might not think to try to out-do you. So, is it worth sharing your accomplishment or thing with the satisfaction that you once had the best, knowing that it could be temporary, or would you rather keep it to yourself, knowing what you have, but not enticing the rest of the world to compete for it?

And there, friend, is a glimpse inside my enigmatic brain.

If you and I had coffee...

We'd laugh at our sometimes crazy thought spirals and wind down in our conversation. I'd tell you that I was ready for all of this to be over so that we can return to our normal coffee dates because I miss visiting with you. We'd promise to meet up again next month, and I'd send you an air hug before bidding you adieu.

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Every second Tuesday of the month, we gather together with our favorite hot beverages and catch up. Care to join us? Our next coffee date is on Tuesday, June 9th. Hope to see you then!

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30 comments:

  1. I didn’t realize how much I missed having coffee with a good friend until I read your post. Sigh. And to answer one of your questions: I’ve been eating too many baked goods haha

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  2. Oh my gosh, my eating habits have been horrible since this quarantine started. Haha!

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  3. Such a beautiful, thoughtful post. It does make me wistful for those coffee dates with good friends. Zoom catch-ups online are just not the same.

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  4. Kelly Debree BolenMay 12, 2020 at 8:25 PM

    I don't drink coffee, butI used to frequent Starbucks all the time to meet friends, clients and other biz people. And I truly do miss it! =(

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  5. You're right. Zoom calls aren't the same as a real coffee date.

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  6. I really appreciate the link to the Media Bias Chart. I'm having a hard time with the COVID conspiracies. My son is a doctor and is treating probable COVID patients, and I'm scared for him, his wife, and their newborn daughter. I'm looking forward to the day when I can meet my first born grandchild and hold her for the first time.

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  7. Nice discussion. Many of us have cabin-fever as the pandemic lingers and lingers. Stay happy and healthy, my friend.

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  8. I am pretty much eating the same thing as always...just more of it in lockdown! lol But who isn't? (;

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  9. Sounds like a good chat! I've been working sooooo much, and I'm super-stressed out. Didn't realize it until today when I broke into tears unexpectedly! The yoga series you posted is a bad link for me :( I'd love to check it out.

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  10. It's funny how online meetings have become the normal now, and I do appreciate not having to dress up as much. Rain is lovely after a drought but it is very nice to sit and read in the sunshine. I've been social distancing a bit more than other people, because being pregnant puts me into the at risk category. To be honest, I've been enjoying the rest but I do appreciate the odd occasion when I go to the shops or see people in person. It is a shame how many conspiracy theories and false information there is out there, especially on social media. I've got to the stage where I prefer to avoid reading anything Covid related.

    And as for what I've been eating, I'm at the stage of my pregnancy where I'm hungry all the time! No specific cravings but I get very snacky - lots of cereal in the afternoon and chocolate at night. Lovely to have coffee with you again, Lecy!

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  11. You're very welcome. Aww, it must be so hard to be away from your first grandbaby. I hope you are able to be with them soon. <3

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  12. Yes, I'm sure all our eating habits have changed a bit. :)

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  13. Oh no, I'm sorry the link didn't work for you. If you search Yoga With Adriene on Youtube, you'll find the TRUE playlist. That's the series I was referring to. :)

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  14. I'm with you. Anything Covid related is just stressful to read right now. A few cities here in the U.S. have just extended their stay-at-home orders for another three months, and that makes me feel a little claustrophobic.

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  15. This is such a creative write-up. I’ve been so emotional on my FaceTime chats with my best friends because I miss them so much.

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  16. If we had coffee right now, I'd tell you that I'm restless too. I've gone out more than most, because my husband and I took up jobs with Instacart to provide for ourselves while he's furloughed and blog campaigns are down. It means going to the grocery store an awful lot, but so far we've managed to stay healthy and safe. However, it's not the same as going for coffee or hugging a friend. I've had several friends announce pregnancies, get married, or have birthdays during quarantine, and I haven't gotten to celebrate with them, which is so tough. I miss that. And I'd say how I LOVE Adriene's videos. they've helped me so much lately! And lastly, I'd say that I'm glad you're educated yourself so that you don't fall into the media schemes. So many grossly biased conversations are happening, so it's good to be prepared with knowledge!

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  17. Thank you so much, Lisa. Yes, it's hard not to be emotional right now. <3

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  18. It has been tough not to be able to celebrate with friends. I hope we are able to start easing back into that part of life again soon.

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  19. I can definitely relate to eating during lockdown. It's been hard. I never thought about something so simple changing so drastically.

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  20. If you and I had coffee I would tell you that I'm scared about my state opening up. I'd tell you that my husband has asthma and I worry about him getting the virus. I'd tell you I battle this because I also miss getting my hair cut, going to the gym, and taking vacations. I'd tell you my anxiety was under control until they announce the end of the stay at home order.... and now it's back full force.

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  21. Love this post! If we had coffee, I would tell you about all of the plans I have once we open back up, crazy how much this home body can miss the outside world.

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  22. I'm with you, friend. I hope you guys stay safe! <3

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  23. Yes! I am very much an introvert, but I do have lots of things I'd like to do once it's safe again.

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  24. Isn't it so surprising how much food goes to waste because it isn't 100% perfect. I love that you tasked yourself with using all of the goods you got and had only 3 left. You will have to report what you get this round. We had a thing called bountiful baskets here but with the extent of my allergies, I have never participated because of that.
    The one thing I have been doing is making myself look job-ready for all of my meetings. Sure I am still working but it would be pretty easy to wear yoga pants but I am 100% in my work clothes on work days. Church days, no, still in the yoga pants and comfy sweater, but work days I have to get into the professional mindset and go from there.
    Thank you as always for hosting our coffee dates each month.

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  25. Tobia | craftaliciousmeMay 17, 2020 at 4:41 AM

    My goal setting is a bit weird lately. There was one year where I posted monthly goals on the blog and that was the only year I really was on track. I guess it does help when being accountable to someone. Now I have a ton of lists and goal plans but the follow through is not always as great as I wished.
    And I totally hear you about the false information and conspiracy. It is a big issue here in Germany too also being hijacked by some political parties on the right wing spectrum which is rather concerning. So I fear what this will lead to.
    As for the eating, I actually tracked that in my weekly corona diaries series.
    Hope you feel better soon and the cabin fever passed. That reminds be of a book I read a couple of weeks ago that was called Cabin Fever which was very different but surprisingly good to read.

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  26. I think it can completely change your day when you actually dress for work, even though you are working from home. I used to subscribe to the FlyLady's emails a long time ago. She had an organizing/life management blog and one of her tips for improving daily productivity was to put lace-up shoes on every day. The idea that you actually get dressed makes you feel more productive and less likely to crash into bed the second you're out of that meeting. :)

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  27. It's interesting how conspiracies are thriving all around the world. I'll have to check out that book!

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