Tuesday, June 09, 2020

If You and I Had Coffee | vol 48

Join me for a conversation over coffee? #coffeedates



If you and I had coffee...

We'd brew up a couple of iced coffees at my place and head out to the lower deck to sit next to the pool. It is hot outside and it would feel nice to sit on the edge and dip our feet in the cool water. I'd tell you how much I enjoy sitting out here in the early mornings before the rest of the world has risen or when the sun is setting and the fireflies are dancing about in the yard.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask how you are doing. It's been a heavy week here in the U.S. and around the world, and the tension can feel crushing sometimes. So, I'd want to know that you were finding ways to balance some happy with all that heavy. I'd tell you that I have been spending a lot of time with my sisters and niece and nephew, and have been doing a lot of cooking, so that's helped pull me away from my phone and social media, where I feel drawn to jump into social justice warrior mode. It's good to know when to step back, shut up, and let others do the talking sometimes. Yes?

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that in the realm of the Black Lives Matter movement, I struggle with when to allow myself to step back. I am white and have the privilege to remove myself from the conversation because none of it directly affects me. At the same time, I have many friends who do have to deal with the struggles of having a black or brown body in this world, and being an empath, I feel the need to try to carry that burden with them, even though I could never understand what it's truly like to live that life. So, for the moment, I am listening and learning how I can best use my privilege to help move the conversation, but mostly learning to listen.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd tell you that I'm looking forward to setting some strict work hours during the summer so that I am able to spend some of the daylight outdoors. I have a stack of "beach reads" that I'd like to get to this season, and what better place than to devour them while sitting next to the pool? I also have plans to take my yoga mat outside and start practicing in the cooler hours of the day, because there is something invigorating about the fresh air, and frankly, I'm tired of working out in the same place I have been for the last six months.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask you what your favorite meals are for the summertime. I'd share that I'm excited about the lighter fare that this season brings. Salads, steamed vegetables, and fruits are all moving up my to-make list. I also want to try to grill some more so that I can keep the heat out of the kitchen. I'm especially interested in grilling fresh peaches. Of course, the CSA boxes will come in handy with all the fresh produce that comes from my local farmers market, so I think it will be a good season for eating.

If you and I had coffee...

I'd ask if you get a lot of junk emails and how you handle them. I have been getting so many lately and I don't know why. Retail stores that I have purchased from in the past are all of a sudden shooting off several emails a day. These are places that I thought I had removed my contact info from years ago, but they must have switched over to a new marketing group or something because my inbox is getting swamped. I have gone back on an unsubscribing binge and hope to have all of the junk gone before too long. 

If you and I had coffee...

We'd finish the last sips of our drinks just as the sun was rising high in the sky above us, casting a bright glare off the pool and making our skin feel hot and dry. We'd take our cue that it was time to wrap our conversation, and I'd walk you to the front door so we could say goodbye. I'd give you an air hug since we're still trying to be conscious of social distancing, and we'd promise to make time to get together again soon.

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27 comments:

  1. When I get overwhelmed with junk emails I just slowly unsubscribe. Takes FOREVER but I guess it is what it is. You can also create an email for online shopping and subscribing so that you can just forget about those emails.

    I pretty much eat all food off the grill in the summer!

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  2. That’s a good idea! And yes to all the grilled food. :)

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  3. This week has definitely felt heavy, I think most of 2020 has really and if you and I had coffee I would want to talk about it in a way that allows space to let off some of the pressure before moving onto talking about the books we are reading. I always love swapping book recommendations. If you and I had coffee I would tell you that I am excited for watermelon salad and our upcoming annual Aunt Mel and Uncle Andrew trip with all our nieces and nephews. I would tell you that I'm hopeful for a brighter ending to 2020.

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  4. I would love to chat books with you and watermelon salad sounds delicious.

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  5. If you and I had coffee I'd tell you that it's been tough to be "okay" this week.

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  6. Definitely feeling heavy too. For the summer, I love to eat quinoa salads. I made one today that was delicious. It was with quinoa, bell peppers and ricotta :)

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  7. I need to find some good quinoa salad recipes. That one with ricotta sounds delicious!

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  8. I get tons of junk emails too. I just delete and mark them as spam! And I love reading by the pool.

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  9. This week has been extremely heavy, I work full time for a police department and tensions are on edge, If i had coffee with you, I wouldn't want to talk about the world today, I'd want to talk about something light and happy, maybe plan a field day for the family. I deal with the sadness and tension daily, I would want just a short moment it wasn't surrounded by hate and anguish.

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  10. I think that's fair to take a day off from the sadness.

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  11. That's a great tip. I have seven different email addresses, for various purposes, but they all seem to accumulate junk mail!

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  12. Yes, junk mail always and always hitting the unsubscribe button! But seriously, I love the imagery you always put in these posts. I feel so relaxed and at home when I read them.

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  13. That's so sweet of you to say, Kelsey. Thank you!

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  14. I love that it's iced coffee and CSA box season! However, it has been difficult to get excited when everything happening in the world feels so heavy right now. I relate to what you said about having the privilege to step back and listen. As for emails, I love unroll.me, which lets me quickly gather them all up into a single email!

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  15. The last week or two has been really hard. I think you put it well that we have the white privilege to not let it affect us, so we have to be careful not to just ignore the issues because they hurt or it's hard. I joined an allyship book club and have been reading "Me and White Supremacy" to learn more and have better understanding.

    Also the junk emails have just taken over. I stopped trying to fight it and they just sit in my inbox. I have 45,000 unread messages. It's awful.

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  16. You're right. It is hard to get excited about some of those things right now. Thanks for the recommendation for unroll.me. I'll check that out!

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  17. I love the idea of an allyship book club. What a great way to learn about this subject.

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  18. SO much junk mail. I try to go though it every so many days and delete, but its beyond overwhelming. Life has been so heavy lately. As a fixer, all this hate and struggle is hard to digest. I have been learning and following but I just can't find the words to express myself. A iced coffee by the pool sounds amazing though. I always love these posts. I will have to link up with you soon :). Sending virtual hugs!

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  19. Yes, I've found it difficult to find the words too. Sending some hugs right back to ya!

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  20. It's funny hearing so many bloggers talk about summer and all the hot weather food and drinks that go with it. If I sat out in my yard in the early morning, it would be freezing! But if the weather was warm, iced coffee by the pool sounds lovely! Things have felt quite heavy with the black lives matter issue. I'm definitely at the point where I need to take a break from engaging with the issue on social media, and instead just pray and let other voices be heard. I'm really enjoying winter slow cooking at the moment, but my favorites for summer are Vietnamese noodle salad and a tomato and haloumi salad. Fresh, light food is one of the best things about summer. So lovely to have coffee with you today, Lecy!

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  21. Yes, that is funny! I'm sure by the middle of summer here, I'll be sick of the hot weather and praying for the cooler temperatures to return. I really enjoy the cold weather, so perhaps I should spend my winter in the Northern Hemisphere and my summer in the Southern. Those salads sound delicious!

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  22. Tobia | craftaliciousmeJune 12, 2020 at 2:03 AM

    I feel with the heavy weeks and it’s been tough. I feel a fatigue coming on when seeing yet another post but that’s what it is - it’s never over and a constant battle until it’s changed. We truly live through challenging times.
    As for a summer dish I can only recommend my all time favorite https://www.craftaliciousme.com/schmorgurken-favorite-summer-dish/ it’s a very local German dish and most people hear have never heard of it. It’s Also vegan and can be eaten cold and warm too. So good to meet for a chat again. Loving the air hug too. I’ve been doing feet bumps with my family.

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  23. I also feel the fatigue. Thanks for sharing that dish. It sounds delicious!

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  24. I just started working with a spiritual guide and she asked if anyone had ever told me I was an empath. I'd never considered that I was one, but the discussion made a lot of sense of indescribable characteristics of my life and experience. So, in a way, in a different way, I understand you. Maybe I always have.

    The world is heavy, but in my first day of trying to see the world differently, I noticed a lot of accord and respect that goes unnoticed. I'm grateful for those who live lives of equality and acceptance without a second thought. I wish this was as contagious as COVID.

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  25. That's awesome to be able to see things from another perspective.

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